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“Small boys become big men through the influence of big men who care about small boys.” anonymous

Father’s Day has become a big commercial deal in the U.S. and, frankly, I get a bit tired of it but that doesn’t change the fact that fatherhood needs to be celebrated.

Our world needs more fathers; real fathers, fathers who fill their children up with attention and love.

“A good father is one of the most unsung, unpraised, unnoticed, and yet one of the most valuable assets in our society.”
— Billy Graham

Do your children have a father who pays attention to them, loves them and strives to be a good father? He needs affirmation. The affirmation doesn’t have to be in the form of a new Bar-B-Q grill (something my husband wants to make himself this month) or a soppy store-bought card. Here are some ways to give a dad a “high five” for standing in the gap as a father.

How about a Lady Bug Tie Tack? All it takes is a little Sculpey or Fimo clay and a tie tack back…my kind of craft!

My daughter made this fun cake one year. (We asked our local Dry Cleaners if we could have shirt box to put it in and they gave us several).

One of the most meaningful gifts for anyone to receive is a record of loving thoughts and comments from their family. A simple notebook filled with remarks from his children would make a wonderful gift for any man. Ask your children what they love about their daddy and what they love best to do with him. Write it down! If you have time, use poster paint to make handprints next to each comment (include the older children too). Make sure you date the book. It will be a keepsake for years to come.

“A father carries pictures where his money used to be.”
~ Author Unknown ~

Actually, a really fun gift that would make you the “coolest family” on the block in dad’s eyes would be a “gift of the month club.” For the man who loves sweets you could commit to baking a homemade treat every first day of the month (or whatever day you choose). A man who fishes might receive a new fishing lure each month, another might love exotic pickled goodies such as artichoke hearts and pickled onions.

If your financial status fluctuates a lot, don’t commit to a “gift of the month club” without having at least six months worth of gifts bought ahead of time, just in case you run out of “gift” money (ask me how I know).

As you teach your children how to honor their father (and, perhaps, as you honor your own) remember that men and women are different and need unique affirmation from their loved ones. Men crave respect and honor. This isn’t wrong, it’s the way they are made. Keep that in mind as you celebrate their day.

For more help and inspiration in understanding men, I recommend Dr. Laura Schlesinger’s The Care and Feeding of Husbands. I don’t like Dr. Laura’s tone in her radio show and I don’t agree with her perspective on a lot of things but she got it right in this book. Any woman who has been influenced by the feminist driven world in which we live should read this book.

For further help in appreciating the difference a dad makes in the life of his child read Five Things Fathers Do Best.

You know your husband. Use your creativity and unique family to create a one-of-a-kind gift for a man among men…the father of your children.

“Blessed indeed is the man who hears many gentle voices call him father!”

~ Lydia M. Child ~