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ABC's of Love, advice to a young wife, blessing your husband, covenant marriage, For Men Only, For Women Only, Gabby Moms, Lorrie Flem, pleasing your husband, Shaunti Feldhahn, wise words
Back when I was a clueless fiancee’ and knowing that I was on my way to being a clueless newlywed, I read every marriage book I could get my hands on. I also watched (with an eagle eye) the married couples in my church. I would see them grocery shopping together and my mouth would hang open. Wow! I had never seen that before. I would watch couples when they disagreed in public and I would notice when (and how) they dealt with it.
The church was my little marriage “incubator” and God used it, mightily, to mature me and put flesh on the marriage advice I had only read about.
Back in the little hippie town of I grew up in, it wasn’t cool to be a family man or a committed wife and homemaker. No, the really hip thing was to trade the old model of spouse in for a new one and go do drugs with the young girlfriend. Role models I did not have.
So, I’ve spent a lot of time reading good and bad books on the subject of marriage and worrying too much about doing it right. I don’t have a lot of books I recommend to new couples but I recently read two books that gave me new insights into male and female behavior. Yes, I’ve been married for more than thirty-one years and it makes me very happy to understand my husband more deeply.
For Women only by Shaunti Feldhahn and For Men Only by Shaunti and her husband, Jeff Feldhahn, are small, easy- to- read books packed with insight and wisdom based, primarily, on Shaunti’s careful research. Shaunti’s background is impressive; she has a Master’s Degree from Harvard and has worked on Wall Street and Capital Hill. She is also a committed Christian and applies her analytical skills to helping men and women better understand each other.
These books were updated and expanded in March so, if you have read the old version, they’ve been improved!
We’ve all heard that respect is important to men but, according to the men who answered Shaunti’s questions, respect is love! Indeed, it is so important to a man that most would live without love and choose to be respected instead!
Another revelation was that to most men, the burden of providing for their family never goes away even if their wives work and make a good income.
For Men Only really should be read just by men but, because I had to read it to review it, I must say that it is the most user-friendly marriage book for men I’ve ever read. It is short and it is funny. Who knows? Your husband may actually read it!
I am a reviewer for Lorrie Flem and was generously provided with an extra set of these books to give away! I would love to give them to you.
To win a set of these books for men and women, please leave a comment on this post sharing what you R E S P E C T about your husband or the man in your life (your dad or brother or boyfriend). I will draw a winner a week from today (June 25th)!
Not only can you win a complete set from me but, if you visit Lorrie Flem’s website, you can win a bundle with the DVD! Wow! The bundle will include the NEW DVD study that came out June 18th and includes a men’s study, women’s study and couples study along with the leader guide and a copy of For Women Only, and For Men Only books.
Do you want to watch a video of Shaunti to see what she says about the books? Check her out!
Don’t forget that you can sign up for Lorrie’s free quarterly online magazine. It’s full of encouragement and practical advice.
**As a member of the Gabby Moms Review Team, I was given a free copy of the books in exchange for my review.**
Christina said:
I respect my husband for his faithful provision for our (large) family and for the calm, balanced, even tempered way he approaches problems that come up.
nt12many said:
I respect my husband for his bold, visionary approach to life even in the face of obstacles.
Jill (I’m not entered to win, I just wanted to brag about my husband!)
Debbie said:
I respect my husband for the many ways that he sacrifices his own time, needs and desires for the good of me and his daughter, son-in-law and grandchildren. Our daughter is sick and needs support and help with her 3 children in the mornings as her husband leaves for work at 6:30 a.m. most mornings. My husband gets up at 5:15 a.m., makes me coffee and runs my bath (I get up at 5:30 a.m.), makes his own breakfast and lunch for work and then goes upstairs to our daughter and son-in-laws home to look after the grandchildren until I come up at 7:15 a.m. He does this without complaining or murmuring and with joy. He has a great relationship with his grandchildren because they know that he loves them and is there for them when they need him. I thank the Lord for this husband that he has given me and do not feel worthy of the blessings that are mine in him and because of him. Thank you Lord.
Bobbe said:
I respect my husband’s knowledge of, and facility with, God’s word.
Crystal in Lynden said:
I respect my husband because he is an honest, honorable man who treats me with respect.
Elizabeth said:
I respect the man who is currently pursuing me. He not only has the utmost respect for my parents and I, but also treats those around him in the same way. He is in true relationship with God and I can rest assured that God’s will is most important in his life. He is upright and righteous, loving what is good and passionately fighting against what is wrong. Whether or not we end up together, the kindness and Christian love he has shown me has earned my respect, trust, and overall faith and confidence in a wonderful friend.
nt12many said:
Thanks for sharing what you respect about your men, ladies! You are all entered! I love reading your comments.
Jill
Katie said:
I think I’ve heard her talk b4. VERY interested in this!! I love that you’re sticking up for marriage Jill!! Lets all dive in!!!
🙂
katie said:
aargh, Jill…i didn’t read ALL the BOLD print! (you could understand if i hadn’t read the FINE print, but good grief, eh?)
i RESPECT my dear hubby so much for all the hard work he puts in at a hard job. so much he puts up with from ME, as i learn and grow in the Lord. he is so committed and faithful….i do not deserve….
it’s definitely humbling. i’d love this book to grow more. it’s time for a kick in the pants!
=)
Sandy said:
I respect my husband because he puts God first in all areas of His life no matter what the sacrifice or cost.
Z Banks, MEd (@MizBanks) said:
I respect my man because he is a king among men, and I’m so proud of what he’s become. I praise God for introducing us when we were kids and reuniting us as adults.
Cara said:
I respect my husband for being a godly man who loves God’s Word and prays with his family daily. I also respect him for being a wonderful father and husband who often sacrifices his own comfort for us.
rachel lidbeck said:
I am so thankful that my husband Scott has always been a gentle and grace filled husband and father to our five children and now grandchildren. He read God’s Word and missionary biographies to our kids every night before a time of prayer together. Can’t believe 43 years could have passed since we said “I do!”